Being Alone

"The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it's not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person--without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other." -Osho

In spending a lot of my time alone I have learned a lot about self love and within this time of self love, I have learned how to love others in a healthier manner. I do not depend my happiness on my loved ones. I appreciate their existence and love them with all of my heart and soul, but I know that their life journey is calling them to do far more than focus on my personal happiness. My personal happiness is my personal happiness, it is for no one else to give or take.

I used to depend my happiness on a lot of people and those relationships always ended in disaster and heart break. In fact, those relationships don't even exist in my life anymore and I realized if I want to keep the people I love close to me- and if I want to help give to their happiness- I need to give space, acceptance, and love.... unconditionally. We all have our own way of expressing ourselves, expressing love, and expressing joy. The more I focus on how I am choosing to express myself- the closer I become to those I want to be closer with. There is a book out there floating around that I need to get my hands on and read; I encourage you to read it as well if you haven't already: The 5 Love Languages- Gary Chapman. If any of you have the copy and would like to lend it to me, send me a message (;

I reiterate taking alone time constantly through out my blog posts, today; I encourage this yet again, take some time for yourself, take time to love yourself. Give space to those you love, to love themselves. Your relationships will grow stronger with space to breathe. This I can promise you. Xo