The Real versus the Imagined

I post a lot about unconditional love. It is something, that in the last couple years, I have been really studying and focusing my time on. It is wild to me how far we have moved away from our natural state of unconditionally loving ourselves and each other. There are so many ideas out there about how one should live their lives when it comes to relationships, love, etc. The key word here is that theses are just IDEAS. Each of us has the right to our own idea about how we want to live our lives and no one wants to be told their idea isn't good enough, or wrong. The ideal relationship, to me is simple, it would be; you both mutually agree on the same idea of what makes sense to the two of you in your personal relationship, without involving others opinions. There isn't a script or a book to follow when it comes to how to live out a relationship properly.

I spend a lot of my time with clients and a big topic of conversation happens to be about relationships. A lot of women revolve most of their lives around a relationship. Whether they are in one, or trying to find one, or they have just gotten out of one. I find myself curious about what people's ideas about relationships are and what they find makes a successful or unsuccessful relationship. I find it fascinating because believe it or not, I never really thought about what my "ideal" relationship or future would be like. I have always found it to be intimidating and stressful to try and predict or put pressure on something that usually fails with pressure anyhow. To each is own when it comes to how we think about anything in this world. But I encourage everyone to take a second look at the way you give and receive love. Do you adjust yourself to someone else's standards even if it doesn't make you happy? Do you put pressure on others to live the way that makes you feel better? Either one is not under the definition of unconditional love.

Look at your relationships with non-expectation and acceptance and watch it grow and bud into the relationship it is MEANT to be, not the one you're trying to make it become. You will watch your partner grow into the person they are meant to be, while you are becoming the person you are meant to be. There would be less hardship, less hurt, and less disappointment if we could all remember this daily. I urge you to do some research on unconditional love and what that truly means. Not only could it save your relationships, but it could save yourself, from a life of unhappiness.